Girl1 and Girl2 didn’t arrive until I was in my mid/late 30s. They hadn’t got lost in the post, I just wasn’t ready for them. I wasn’t having a highflying career or travelling the world. I was just muddling along having fun, getting married, getting divorced and wondering what on earth was going on, getting remarried. Stuff. Life.
Then the Girl1 arrived and I was really baffled. I had to be responsible. To my amazement, they didn’t send a nurse home from the hospital to be sure she was being properly looked after. They seemed to think we’d be able to manage. I tried suggesting to Spurs Fan that I could go back to work a few days after the baby was born, and he could problem solve, but there was the issue of the breast feeding and the yuk, so I got to stay home.
We survived the feeding and the colic and tears and the eventual return to work. Girl2 arrived. Girl1 toddled around bringing nappies and readjusting to her world- where had all this noise come from and when was it going to go away?
In the early days I didn’t much notice my old age- the prenatal classes had several women in their 30s and I didn’t go to ‘parent and toddler’ groups. The first time my elderly status was brought to my attention was when Girl2 was rolling about in a ball bit at a soft play place. A woman approached me, asked if I was ‘mum’ and then said ‘It’s great to see older mothers out’ in a tone that suggested that I was being brave for daring to leave the house with a baby at my time of life.
When it was time for school I realised that not only was I amongst the oldest parents of the class, but that my peers had several children older than mine. Also, some of the children in the class had grandparents my age. When the teacher had a ’21 again’ birthday, Girl2 was happy to announce to the assembled masses ’21! My mummy’s 42′.
We’re all getting older, and Girl1 will hit double figures next week. When the teenage traumas arrive will I be ‘too old to understand’, or will my advanced age give me that granny type credibility?
Yeah, that’s what I thought.