Speccy McSpec, that’s me. That’s always been me. Apart from the novelties of the blogging world, I’ve never changed my name. Some women do, when they marry, but I never did. Unexpectedly, that turned out to be handy when I got divorced. It causes only a little confusion at the school that the children and I have different surnames, and it means that the origins of post are easily identified- anything addressed to Mrs Speccy Spurs Fan Name is probably from his aunt. Random landline callers who greet Spurs Fan with “Hello, Mr McSpec” are easily dispatched without getting a chance to sell their wares.
The local newspapers were very happy recently with Herself. As they get paid per word, they were delighted that we referred to Herself Handsome Husband’s Name/ Mc Spec (née) Own Family Name. There’s a big connection who are known by the Own Family Name, and she spent most of her life using McSpec- in order to reflect who she was (“Now, who would she be?”), we needed to show all those.
Last week I got to help a friend create a name. We signed official forms. A solicitor signed the same forms. Then we trotted up the street for me to sign another form, in front of another solicitor. That solicitor signed several forms. Both solicitors checked everything- neither of them had done this before either. A marriage certificate was replaced with a birth certificate. I confirmed that I’ve known my friend for over 10 years (nearer to 30!) and that my friend is who she said she was. It’s official- she is, legally, who she wants to be. Hurrah!
There were hugs and grins. There was a little wine. There was something akin to Nicole Kidman skipping down the street. She chose a name that defines her, a new name, just for her, one not shared with her siblings or her children. There is nobody like her. There never has been. A strong and proud individual, making her own way in a mixed up muddled up shook up world. A fighter, full of hope and laughter and love and drama and creativity.
Welcome to the world Ms New Name. Go show them who’s boss.